If you or someone whom you know has struggled with depression in the past or is perhaps going through a difficult phase at present you might have been told that depression results from a chemical imbalance in the brain. Phrases like ‘low serotonin levels’ to try and explain depression are often used.
Do you sometimes feel that you dance to others’ tunes? That you go through life like a robot just doing the things that are expected of you? You have probably been brought up in a household that has been generous in giving time to others but has not taught you how to say “no” when you feel overwhelmed and exhausted? Does saying “no” make you feel guilty or selfish?
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to be able to ‘take it or leave it’ with relationships whilst others hang in there with a friendship or relationship even if they struggle within that relationship? Or have you wondered why a person just seems to be able to be in a friendship or relationship without it being problematic?
Within a family there are several individuals who are growing and changing at any one time.
From the time of a couple meeting to further down the line when one child and then two or more children come along, the family structure needs to be malleable enough to accommodate these changes.
Sidney Rosen in his book The Teaching Tales of Milton Erickson, talks about The Book of Secrets, Bhagwan Shree Rajnesh and how in it is described seeing with ‘new eyes ‘, He points out that we get into the habit of not seeing familiar objects, friends or family’.
In our world of today there is a great emphasis on efficiency and productivity. Things are results driven, goal orientated …. buzz words that are synonymous with being successful. We are told we need to build up resilience, become more robust or get trampled in the stampede of life.